The Way

Your Hidden Life in a Way of Life focused on the Virtues of Jesus

You have a hidden life…but not the hidden life that you’re now thinking of.

This hidden life is hidden with Christ in God, a new self which will become fully revealed when you appear with Him in glory (Colossians 3:3)  But God’s desire is that you put on this new self now, as you contemplate the Lord’s glory, and are being transformed into His image with ever-increasing glory, which comes from the Lord, Who is the Spirit (2 Corinthians 3:18).

“Your Hidden Life” is a monthly podcast focusing on  twelve virtues of Jesus, hidden with Him, but available to you as whole-life outcomes which He desires to replicate in you.  Each month, we look at one of the virtues, including various spiritual practices which in which we can orient ourselves to receiving and manifesting that virtue.

Our first podcast from January 2021, on the virtue of Forgiveness, is available by clicking the link below, and will soon be accessible from the usual podcast sources:

In historic Christian teaching, virtues can orient Christians in living in a relationship in, with, and for God the Holy Trinity.  God is the origin of the virtues, is their motive, and is their object, that we become like Christ in His character and actions.  In that relationship, by God’s grace through faith, His Virtues can get replicated in us, His children.

The Abbey Way of Life identifies some spiritual disciplines or habits that can put us in a place in which God can grow His Virtues in us, giving us the raw material for taking in that “new self” that He desires us to become.  Rooted in the ancient monastic traditions of prayer and spiritual formation, The Abbey Way of Life nonetheless engages contemporary culture in mission.

In the outline below, three general areas of virtue are identified, the “theological virtues” mentioned in 1 Corinthians 13:13: faith, hope, and love abide, these three.  in each triad, what follows is a general description of a Virtue, connected to an attribute of God Himself, followed by suggested spiritual practices associated with that virtue.  The concluding questions assist us in self-examination and growth.  Adopted together, or even in part, these virtues and associated disciplines can form a Way or Rule of Life that can put us in place where The Holy Spirit moves us toward the goal of Christlikeness, so that we can pursue our personal part in the global mission of Jesus Christ and the building of His Kingdom.

Friends of The Abbey use the Abbey Way of Life as a reflective guide for their own way of living.  Members of The Abbey adopt a personal way of living based on the template of The Abbey Way of Life which is adaptable according to each one’s particular calling, situation, and temperament.  The Way assists us in our shared mission of helping others, and particularly Christian leaders, to go deep and long for God in the extension of His Kingdom.



We regularly turn in repentance to God the Father through the crucified, risen and reigning Christ, seeking His forgiveness and the grace to forgive others.
seasonal reflection on one’s Baptism into forgiveness; daily self-examination and confession to God, and receiving His forgiveness; seeking forgiveness from those we have harmed and receiving it, when offered; offering genuine apologies without excuse; resolving to forgive 70X7, leaving vengeance to God, asking Him root out any bitterness

How am I becoming more aware of my personal sin and our corporate sin, the depth of the forgiveness of the Father, and the need and the ability to forgive others?

We continually draw closer to Jesus, God the Son, who empathizes with us in our weakness, and welcomes us as His Friends.

regular reflection on our being accepted for Holy Communion with God and others; using meals as opportunities to meet God with and in others; looking for the Image of God and the Face of Christ in others, particularly those different from us

How am I embracing my acceptance from Jesus and from others, and how am I demonstrating this acceptance to family, friends, acquaintances, and neighbors?

We commit ourselves to the Body of Christ, God embodied in the Church universal and local, and particularly in The Abbey of The Way Monastic Community, coming to trust that all things work together for good for us who love God and are called together according to His purpose.
giving ourselves to the members of The Abbey of The Way Monastic Community; identifying ourselves as members of the church universal and local; encouraging others to find confidence in the church; reflecting on the secure outcome of the lives of the saints, past and present; setting our minds on things that are good and true in us and in this world

How am I becoming more connected to the Body of Christ in order to receive the confidence which belonging provides, and instilling that confidence in God in others?

We are routinely filled with power by God the Holy Spirit to be and do what He desires, seeking to live, not by impulse, but by godly intention and action.
daily seeking the filling of the Holy Spirit, for self and for others; pressing into the Presence of Christ moment-by-moment in the Holy Spirit; praying for one another and helping others to receive and demonstrate the power of God in their daily living

How am I becoming powered by Christ more than by self or the world?  How am I receiving God’s power for purposeful living, and helping others to receive it with me?



We draw aside daily from day-to-day living to connect with the God The Eternal to drink from His Water of Life, to gain perspective on our past, present, and future.
devoting time daily for Bible reading, prayer, and personal reflection; keeping a journal of personal reflections; sharing our reflections with others in The Abbey of The Way, and inviting their reflections; practicing the daily Examen; praying the Hours morning, noon, evening, and bedtime; regularly engaging Christian literature and arts

How am I coming to understand more of myself and my world?  How am I inviting others to help me to reflect on my life, and encouraging others to do likewise?

We enter into the Sabbath Rest prepared by the God of Peace for His people, learning how to cease from labor, developing peaceful friendships with God and others for the Sabbath Day and for life.
managing our work in six days; keeping the Christian Sabbath weekly, Saturday sundown to Sunday sundown, inviting others to join us in rest and recreation with God; engaging in regular disciplines of solitude and silence; developing seasonal times to retreat, rest and play

How am I taking part in the blessing of Sabbath Rest, so that the peace of God will become part of my way of living, and am I inviting others into this?

We embody the Life of God the Holy Trinity as we draw near to one another and others in friendship, love, and service, becoming a flock who follow the Good Shepherd.
committing ourselves to weekly gatherings with The Abbey Community; joining other opportunities to connect with family, neighbors, friends and friends of God; finding/being a mentor; exploring deeper ways to relate to God.

How am I improving the quality of my relationships with others and with Jesus as I become a close and faithful friend to some friends of God?

We give ourselves to the Self-Emptying God, rendering ourselves to Him and to one another and to others, offering our bodies, abilities and gifts as unto Him.
giving an increasing percentage of our time and money to God’s work; practicing whole-life stewardship; practicing regular fasting from food, media

How am I offering my time, money, abilities, spiritual gifts, and body to God and others? What are the portions which I can give in the months and year ahead?\




We reach out with compassionate words and deeds on behalf of the God of Justice, Who desires to bless and save all, serving as His ambassadors to the world.
exploring ways to serve God and others locally, nationally, internationally; serving Him through The Abbey of The Way, welcoming and serving guests who wish to go deeper with God; serving Him in the poor and those we don’t like; practicing creation care.

How am I deepening compassion for others, especially the poor, sick, addicted, lonely, and unlovable?  How am I helping to advance God’s mission of justice and truth?

We learn and teach the Word of God as representatives of the God of Truth. We are curious to learn more of God’s world, though firm in the convictions of the Bible.
studying Scripture, creeds, confessions weekly to give an account for God’s hope in us; developing wonder in the world and its people; asking good questions of others that draw them out; practicing Trinitarian prayer

How am I learning or teaching the faith with others, so that I not only desire to know more of Him and His world, but also become clearer in what I do know and believe?

We confess our need for God and for one another because the God of Mercy makes us Family, as we give and receive healing, deliverance, and reconciliation.
regularly testifying to our need for God and His church; giving and receiving short- and long-term prayer; practicing reconciliation in my family, neighborhood, workplace, and wider community; being open to correction; seeking healing and deliverance.

In what ways do I need the help of God and His People, and how am I seeking it out? How am I caring for others in the Body of Christ even as I seek their care for me?

We celebrate Life with the God of Grace since we have learned the secret of being content in all circumstances: we can do all things through Christ Who strengthens us.
offering praise reports weekly; expressing gratitude daily; observing seasonal days of celebration and the weekly Sabbath; enjoying a monthly meal at The Abbey; living in our homes and at work or school with glad and generous hearts, enjoying the favor of those not yet part of God’s family; living simply, for the benefit of the next generations.

How am I learning to cease complaining or criticizing? How am I celebrating Life together with others in ways which point to God’s goodness and to my gratitude?


The first followers of Jesus were often called “Followers of the Way”, or, more simply, “The Way”. Found most frequently in the Book of Acts (9:2; 19:9.23; 24:14,22; 22:4), it was the name chosen by believers in Jesus to describe themselves. The title referred to those who followed the One Who is “The Way” of Truth and real Life (John 14:6). But it also described a manner of life which followers of Jesus Christ came to adopt, covering all aspects of living, setting them apart both from the Jewish or Gentile manner of life from which they emerged, and from the cultural way of life in which they were all immersed. Starting with Jesus’ teachings, such as The Sermon on the Mount (Matthew 5-7), this “Way” of living developed further in the early church after His death, resurrection, and ascension and the outpouring of the Holy Spirit (see Acts 2:37-47 for one summary of this Way of Life). The later New Testament includes further development of this unique way of life in Christ, summed up in Philippians 1:27 (Conduct yourselves in a manner worthy of the gospel of Christ) and Colossians 3:17 (Whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the Name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through Him). In the post-biblical period, documents such as “The Didache” (“The Teaching” of the Apostles) clarified in detail what it was like to be a follower of Jesus Christ in the 2nd and 3rd centuries.

Unfortunately, with the melding of Church and Culture in the so-called “Holy Roman Empire” of the 4th century and beyond, the term “Followers of the Way” fell into disuse, as did the common adoption of a defined Way of Life to clarify one’s faith and living. In subsequent church history, however, churches and communities that sought to live more clearly in Christ and to resist the pressure of their culture have crafted a Rule or Way of Life for their life and mission together. The “Method” adopted by Anglicans under the Wesleys, and the baptismal or catechetical covenants in many churches are also examples of a Way of Life. In the 21st century, many missional micro-communities are developing with defined Rules of Life.

We invite you to explore this ancient and contemporary practice, following our Lord Jesus Christ in an intentional Way of Life informing all aspects of your living, totally surrendered to His Authority and the Direction of the Holy Spirit in every area of your life. May God give us grace to help one another to find and follow the One Who is the Way, the Truth, and the Life.


A Way of Life can take many forms. It can be as simple as St. Augustine’s “Love God and do what you will”, or as detailed as St. Benedict’s Rule, which included specific times for meals and sleep. If it is to be useful in helping you to grow deeper in living in, like, and for Christ, it should come from God and be addressed personally to you. Coming from God, it should be in accord with His Word, the Bible, and involve prayerfully seeking the Holy Spirit in communion with other believers in your life or church community, and with Rules of Life from church history. Addressed to you, a Way of Life should fit your personality: if you are a free spirit you might need more structure to help you to grow, beyond the limits of your personal freedom; if you are hyper-responsible, a very detailed Way of Life might induce a sense of failure, and so a lighter touch might take you beyond the limits of your self-discipline. Also, your Way of Life needs to be appropriate to your life situation, and therefore should be reviewed regularly for accountability, and occasionally for revision.

The Way of Life that The Abbey recommends identifies a desired life outcome, expressed in terms of a Christian virtue, and then suggests some spiritual disciplines or habits that will put you in a place where God can enable you to attain the virtuous outcome. With the encouragement of the Holy Spirit and His people in your Christian community, you could choose one or several of the twelve virtues as an outcome, and consider one or several of the suggested spiritual disciplines to help you, or develop your own discipline or habit. Commit this discipline and its anticipated outcome to the Lord, and to His people.


Here are some questions to get you started:

Make a list of your existing spiritual disciplines to look at your current Way of Life.
Evaluate it in the light of our outline. What is one area of your life you want to grow with the Lord’s help?

Which of the 12 virtues in the Way of Life outline is most “attractive” or “needful” to you?

What is a spiritual discipline that might help you?

When, where, and how will you start?

What help do you need?

Who can guide you or pray for you as you begin?

To whom will you be accountable as you step forward?